Part-time employee who is asked too much to do |

DEAR HARRIETTE: I only work part-time for a small business run by two people. I work remotely. Before, I worked full-time, but part-time made more sense for me and my schedule. Sometimes I think my bosses forget that I work part-time, based on how much work they give me on a daily basis. How do I gently remind them that the amount of work they give me is too much like the amount of work they gave me when I was full time, and that it’s way too much work? – Soft reminder

DEAR KIND REMINDER: Ask for a year-end review meeting with your bosses. Prepare with a detailed description of the work you’ve done, including when you worked full-time and now. Show them how productive you have been and what their demands have been.

Point out that they have continued to give you work equal to the volume of a full-time employee and that you want to ask them to recalibrate. Let them know what you think you can accomplish in the hours you work. Assure them that the other work will be done, but it may take longer than they’d like because you’re no longer a full-time employee. But then you have to reinforce that by not doing 40 hours of work in 20 hours. Don’t forget to emphasize your loyalty even if your hours are reduced.

DEAR HARRIETTE: A woman who works at my job just had a baby, and she named the baby after me. I was shocked. I guess that’s fine, but she and I aren’t friends, and we don’t spend time together outside of the office. She now invites me to participate in family activities and other things. She tells me that she has always loved and admired me. That’s why she named her child after me. I find it all a bit creepy. I don’t want to be her friend or her child’s godmother. How can I close this door without looking rude? — My namesake

Dear my namesake: It’s a tricky situation! You can thank the woman for naming her child after you. It’s the thoughtful thing to do. You can say that you hope that everything she loves about you becomes part of who her child is and will become. You can kindly decline invitations to spend time with her and her family. You don’t have to be a part of this woman’s life. That doesn’t mean it’s not weird. He is. But from a larger perspective, it’s really nice that your co-worker thought so much of you to name their child after you. Take it as a compliment. Be nice to her, even if you keep your distance. We never know. One day you might change your mind and get to know the child. This doesn’t mean you have to have an official role, but you can choose to know her.

Harriette Cole is a life stylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send your questions to or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.

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