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A woman calls her husband her second child, who is not interested in any family duties

A British mum has sparked an online debate after saying her husband is ‘acting like a second child’ in the family when she has to do everything.

The unnamed woman, from the UK, shared on Mumsnet that she was ‘going crazy’ because her husband, 50, of 20 years has no interest in anything outside of work and takes no responsibility for the family chores.

She also explained how he called his £50,000 salaried job a ‘vanity job’, adding: ‘It’s all about me. Complete and utter apathy about everything. I don’t see it improving at all. Feel very sad. I don’t feel like I have a partner, just a second child.

Many others were stunned by his comments, with one saying: ‘He won’t change, the question is do you love him/your life enough to stay.’

A British mum has sparked debate online after saying her husband was ‘acting like a second child’ in the family when she had to do it all – and while some encouraged her to ‘reconsider’ marriage, others suggested that she was “moaning for nothing”. ‘

The British mum explained that she met her husband when she was a university student, with the two going on to successful careers before taking a break to have her son.

She said she had worked part-time for five years in a “sometimes ‘demanding’ job where her salary was £50,000.

However, she also revealed that she was left to do many household and administrative tasks in their lives.

The mother-of-one explained that her husband doesn’t take on any responsibilities or anything outside of work or family life.

Her post on Mumsnet admitted they were winning

Her post on Mumsnet admitted that they made ‘quite a lot of money’ and could pay for extra help, but she felt ‘lonely in her marriage because she felt like she had no partner’ and he was “like her second child”.

She then made a list of the responsibilities she has to deal with, saving him the most.

She said, “I’m going to caution, but say DH (Darling Husband) has a good job and makes quite a bit of money.

“I work part-time: good professional work, less well paid. The work is referred to by DH as “vanity work”.

“I took time off – work – when DS (Darling Son) was younger and I think that didn’t help things.

Most Mumsnet users took offense that her husband called her work a

Most Mumsnet users took offense that her husband called her job ‘vanity work’, with many saying she should reconsider their marriage

“Thanks to the DH work we can buy quite a bit of help (cleaner, someone to help in the garden – not enough though, occasional handymen).

“BUT DH assumes no responsibility/interest for anything outside of work and his sports or hobbies.”

The woman added that her husband was born overseas and his father is very similar and very wealthy while his mother “doesn’t work”.

Some were stunned by her husband’s comments, with one writing: ‘I don’t like your H (husband) referring to your part-time job outside the home as ‘work of vanity,” that’s a red flag for him right there. He also looks a lot like his own dad.

However, other users have suggested that she

However, other users suggested she was “moaning” and said she was “complaining about nothing”

Another added: ‘What does your son think of his father? What about you for putting up with that from his father?

“What do you want to teach your child about relationships and what is he learning here.”

Another user said, “Looks like you’re single living within the confines of a marriage!”

While one posted: ‘He won’t change the question is do you love him and your life enough to stay.’

Another added: ‘OP does this man have any redeeming features? I wouldn’t be with someone who treated me like that.

The Briton explained that she felt

The Briton explained that she felt ‘overwhelmed and alone’ despite their comfortable situation

However, others said she complained of ‘nothing’, with one adding: ‘You are married to a high income, you only work PT, you can afford to outsource the cleaning, gardening and DIY.

“And you complain about having to organize a vacation all by yourself?”

However, the mother-of-one hit back, saying: ‘I juggle work (4 days a week) plus everything else. It feels like a huge mental load and I think that’s the problem: the mental load. Just absolutely no help in thinking about anything in life.

She explained: “Part of me wonders about giving up my career and being a full housewife again, but it really limits my options and my independence.”

Finally, the mother of one said she was tired of life, hungry and felt like she had another child

Finally, the mother of one said she was tired of life, hungry and felt like she had another child

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